Monday, May 23, 2016

Confessions of a Long Distance Grandmother

                      Learning To Be a Virtual Grandmother




I am a grandmother. My grandson is ten months old and his family lives 20 miles away. I babysit for him twice a week.  He babbles single syllables, and I keep up my end of the conversation. We roll on the floor, play percussion on a muffin tin, and practice crawling up the stairs. He’s very happy and affectionate. We snuggle and touch a lot, and he trusts me.







My granddaughter is 28 months old and her family lives in La Marsa, Tunisia, 5,734 miles away. I see her three or four times a year for a week or two. We go for walks, play at the playground, read books, and stack blocks. What we don’t do is snuggle or touch at all. She shies away from strangers, and I’m still in that category. She babbles incoherently (at least to me), but she responds correctly to directions in English, French, and Arabic. She trusts me at arm’s length.



One grandchild is a child of my world--one whom I can access easily both physically and emotionally.

The other is a child of the wide world--one whom I must learn to access, perhaps not physically, perhaps not in her every-day language, but certainly virtually.


It sounds like an uphill battle but when I hear my granddaughter’s  voice calling “Nana” as I answer a Skype call, my grandmotherly heart swells to the same degree as a hug from my grandson. Her unlikely yet enthusiastic blend of sounds is music to my ears.

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